Online dating hard for men

As much as some of us hate to admit it, online dating is here to stay.

Many companies have great success rates for relationships and marriage, and I'm glad technology has the ability to aid some of us in finding true love.

One of the biggest advantages these sites supposedly offer is volume.

The question is, whose definition of highly qualified are we talking about?

Certainly not mine, and according to the women in my circles, not theirs either.

It's not so much that the gentlemen themselves aren't high quality (though some aren't) -- it's the marketing.

Bad pictures, poorly written profiles, and misleading information make it frustrating or annoying to sort effectively. If you want to be a man in your online dating profile and truly use the site(s) to attract the woman of your dreams, here are some suggestions.

For example, the guy who "wants a relationship" but by all other factors in his profile is clearly looking for a hookup. Actually, even if you're on the site just to date, trust me, gentlemen, you'll have better results if you make these few minor adjustments: 1.

Stop taking half-naked photos of yourself in the bathroom mirror.Now, if you're laid out in a hot tub in a beautiful bathroom with a view of the ocean behind it, that's a different story.Look, we do want to see your hot bod, but get a friend to take a few pix at the gym or a sporting event. We really don't want to think about what went on in there before or after you took the picture. But if you check the box "wants a relationship" and then don't take the time and effort to write a decent profile, the message we receive is: "I'm looking for a hookup" and "I use love to get sex." For goodness sake, what kind of lazy introduction is that?Sure, it works at a party; we're face-to-face, making eye contact.We can feel or not feel the chemistry, and usually go right into a conversation about what's happening where we are. With just "Hi," I have to assume you're disinterested, bored, or simply inarticulate. Just because sites have those options doesn't mean you have to use them. Tell me you liked what you saw and read, and make a connection.No matter what your excuse is for not writing more, it's lame and a turn off. Taking pix of yourself on the way to being drunk off your ass is not inspiring. You might be God's gift to the party girl, but how are you with a real woman, outside the bar? Do you really want to see all the men I've been with before? And we're not teenagers who need to hide behind texting until we "feel comfortable" enough to talk. As a coach, I encourage women to "know their brand" of femininity.

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