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Disappointed by how the eager gentleman of the first few dates turned into an inattentive boyfriend, Korean women often turn to online portals to air their grievances. My boyfriend had a crush on me for years before we began dating. Edit: Omo…I’m surprised my post received so many views. At times like this, bad comments also give me strength. I guess it was wrong for me to try to tolerate more than what I could take.

Talk about the responsibilities of a man in a relationship and how to make sacrifices to keep your Korean boyfriend lead to hundreds of comments per thread, most of them split between criticism or support of the poster. He treated me well for the first two years of our relationship, but since then he has slowly and subtly changed. I still tried to understand him because I love him but it seems he likes me because I understand his hardship. While it is important to sympathize and try to understand the other person, I should’ve clearly talked to him about what I could not bear.

As part of our continuing coverage of changing gender roles in Korea and the minefield that is modern Korean dating, korea BANG has translated a comprehensive look at two popular dating threads. I can’t put my finger on exactly how he is different, but after several months of this, my love is withering from the accumulated disappointments. He basically treats me well, but he doesn’t care about small things any more. We say goodbye earlier than before but he doesn’t seem sorry about it. Of course, there are exceptions but most guys find calling their women bothersome and just don’t want to be bothered. Because I always tried to absorb it all and move on, it became overwhelming for me.

He’s still attentive to me when he’s with me but now he enjoys his hobbies with other people and he leaves me alone longer. I was so exhausted that I didn’t want to accept him. We eventually got into a rut and weren’t even aware of our relationship’s sickness.

I know I’m still the only woman he sees but he has begun drinking with people, including females. Last night, he came to my house and we talked a lot. If there is some problem, you should tell your partner.

He still talks to me on the phone every night but it’s only once a day, compared to 3~5 times a day as in the past. He said he genuinely believed it every time I said I was okay. Even if men are tired to death, they don’t leave their loved ones alone~ They still find time to drink and meet people. If you said you would call later, you should not forget to call. I don’t understand how she didn’t go to work because of heavy drinking.

Even though we don’t talk as much as before, he seems bored. Twenty to thirty-minute phone calls have shrunk to five to ten-minutes. He said he noticed I was gradually getting frustrated but he thought I would be okay and honestly he didn’t care much due to his own problems. I’m well aware that field work is tough and it’s hard to contact me even though he can find time to use the washroom and have meals. Whether you are a woman or a man, we are supposed to expect basic courtesy between lovers. If he’s really that tired all the time, break up with him. You guys sound like a couple who hit the seven year itch. It seems you will have to do all the house chores even when you are working as well. Meet a better guy and be loved happily~~~My mom said we always have to try to be our best to our girlfriend during the initial dating period. He seems like a good guy but his hard work must be the problem. If you will be on a trip, you should let your partner know it. Such unintentional negligence makes your partner look desperate for your affection, which hurts their pride and turns them neurotic. And what’s worrisome about going home late after drinking with friends? I’m sorry that women are targeted for crimes but if you want to be safe, don’t stay out until too late. I realized that I was a bad boyfriend who didn’t even call my girlfriend every day.

He still wants to spend weekends with me but compared with before we don’t spend as much time together. Since he knows what I think now, he told me he will try to care about me better. Even though he cannot always be attentive to me because he’s busy, I just wait for him to assure me that he cares about me. You need to understand that important point in a relationship. Have a great day~~PS: Just to clarify, I couldn’t go to work not because I was intoxicated too much. I don’t have to work all day but when it gets busy, it’s really busy. Why would you stay in such a relationship…One-sided sacrifice and submission makes you tired. If you have a baby, will your tired husband take care of the baby? If you feel you aren’t being loved even once during that period, you should stop seeing him. ㅜㅜ If you can’t deal with it, you will have to break up but it doesn’t seem like he doesn’t love you. It’s worse especially when it’s hot like these days. I’m very sorry but I’m tired to the point where I can’t even say I’m sorry. She said she will be home late because she’s drinking with her friends. If you want to do whatever you want, just stay single. How did you manage to go home when you had no boyfriend? My girlfriend with a smile said to me, “Look at me. From now on, please call me at least once everyday. Your boyfriend might be exhausted by both work and love but he may not want to give you up. It reminds me of the comic where it said just saying “don’t worry about it” all the time meant there was no time to say “I love you”.

He still likes being with me alone but we only hold hands. I asked him why he couldn’t wait until he made sure I’m home. I normally drink one glass of beer but I didn’t even drink half a glass that night. No matter how busy he is, he still has time to go to the washroom and have meals. Well, maybe not literally just once but it is just not worth it to keep dating someone who doesn’t make you happy. What if I write a comment from the guy’s point of view? Since it was a very hot and tiring day, I just went home to sleep without talking to her. It seems she exploded with all her accumulated frustrations. Wouldn’t it be a turning point between you guys if you can have an open and serious discussion about your concerns? It seems you didn’t really understand him but you pretended to accept him. I know what it feels like to refrain from asking my boyfriend for a date because it is the only day he can take a rest in the week.

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